In Lessons from Babe, my quirky mother-daughter memoir, there’s a lesson “Sharing Fun Is The Whole Thing.” For Babe, sharing fun also meant “Celebrate Everything!”
Babe had a friend, Eileen, a next-door neighbor, who remarried later in life. Since Eileen and her new husband had gotten such a late start, they celebrated their wedding anniversary — weekly. Why wait a year when you have fifty-two opportunities?
Since Ed and I met later in life — both of our spouses had died — and I remembered admiring Eileen’s weekly ritual, I made it ours: because we met on a Friday, and had our first date on a Friday, every Friday we celebrate our good fortune.
This Friday we celebrate 400 Fabulous Fridays.
Friends are curious and intrigued about this ritual of ours. Some ask, What do you do? Is it like a Friday night date night? Where do you go? Do you dress up?
On our 101st Friday we were in Tanzania at Faru Faru on the Grummeti River. We told our guide that it was our anniversary, and he had a special desert made for us.
But mostly how we celebrate will be disappointing for some to hear. Because usually we don’t do anything. In this super-busy, hectic, multi-tasking world of ours, what we do on Fridays is pause. First thing in the morning we take the time to acknowledge how much we mean to each other, how fortunate we are to have found each other, how lucky we are to have spent another week together. You could think of it as mindful meditation meets mindful marriage.